Writing Your Wedding Speech

Wedding Speech tips

Giving a speech at your own wedding can be nerve-wracking for anyone, but it is especially challenging if you’ve been so focused on the wedding planning that you haven’t had time to sit down and formulate your words. Here are my tips on writing the perfect speech that will give everyone the warms and fuzzies without putting too much pressure on yourself.


The best way to start a speech the first time is by telling an amusing story or joke. Humour can help lighten up the mood and make your speech more enjoyable for everyone in attendance, so no one feels uncomfortable.

  • What’s the funniest thing your spouse does in the mornings when they wake up?
  • Was there ever a time they did something so hilarious you couldn’t stop laughing?


Share one of your fondest memories with your spouse. Give your guests an insight into the love story that brought you this far.

  • When was the moment you realised you were falling in love?
  • Where were you when you shared your first kiss?
  • What is something your spouse has done that made you feel proud of them?

Thank yous.

Okay, you’ve shared some heartfelt stuff. Now you can dring your wedding speech to a close with some gratitude. As the host of this big party, it’s your job to let everyone know that their presence is appreciated.

  • Thank your parents, thank your families, thank your wedding party. No exceptions.
  • Shout out anybody who gave up their time and/or skills for your wedding.
  • You can also make your wedding vendors feel special by acknowledging their contributions to the big day.
  • Keep it short and sweet. Whilst it can be very sweet to thank every person individually by name, there’s no need to let it drag on.
  • A final thank you to your brand new spouse! Say “I love you” and you’re done 🙂

A few extra thoughts:


Short and sweet.

Keep it short and sweet. An average speech should last for only about two to five minutes. Keeping your speech concise ensures that you will be able to logically address all of your points without rambling or going off-topic.

  • If you don’t like public speaking, simply say a few kind words, raise your glass for a toast and hand back the microphone.
  • It’s easy to talk too fast when you are nervous. Slow down your speaking in order to allow your guests to hear you more clearly.

Be sincere.

Show your family and guests much you care for your friendship with them and express your gratitude for their participation in the event.

  • Take a moment after the speech to give a hug to your parents or your spouse. Physical touch helps reaffirm the things you’ve just said about them.
  • It’s common for people to get a little choked up while giving a speech. If you have prepared enough in advance, you will be able to push through the tears.
  • Don’t be embarrassed if you do cry, this shows that you care deeply for the person or people who are being honoured.

There are many ways to end a wedding speech, but the most important thing is that you be heartfelt and sincere. I hope these tips will help you on your journey to create something special that expresses how much joy and meaning this day holds for you. Now it’s time to take out those notes on paper and go practice! If this has all been so helpful, please consider sharing this article with others who might need help writing their wedding speech too.

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