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Russ and Dani’s Wedding | Butterland, Newstead VIC

Dani and Russ were married at the popular (and stunning) Butterland, a wedding venue in Newstead, Victoria. Over the course of the time they’ve known each other, they’ve been colleagues, friends and cross-continental lovers. Truly a love for the ages.

Russ: Dani and I had been living opposite ends of the world when I was planning our proposal. I would visit London every few months and we would travel for 3 weeks at a time.

When trying to determine the location I had all of UK and Europe to choose a proposal destination. In the end it occurred to me the perfect setting was where we had spent most of our time together, our home in London was opposite the Kew Royal Botanical Gardens.

I had set up a picnic and secretly organised a photographer to meet us for the big day. He was not very stealth in his approach, as Dani noticed him lurking around as I was readying my delivery! Of course I was nervous, but it all went off according to plan and it took Dani by complete surprise. She cried, we hugged, and we even garnered some applause from some of the locals passing by.

Butterland was an excellent choice of wedding venue, less than 2 hours drive from Melbourne CBD. It is also just 20 minutes from popular destinations Castlemaine and Daylesford. The venue itself has so much character, I did a little a little research and found out that it opened originally in 1904 as a butter factory (no surprise there I guess), and it operated as a successful dairy until 1975. In the early 80’s it became a candle factory these days hosts a plethora of weddings and events year-round.

Each year, Butterland Weddings provides a distinct feeling and aesthetic to couples and wedding guests, whether in winter, spring, summer, or autumn. They work with top-notch culinary partners and have an onsite florist, so they understand the importance of customization and personal style to make every wedding unique.

Dani: I love how thoughtful Russell is. Nothing ever escapes him, he is the man who always writes the most beautiful cards, puts on a feast for guests, makes the cups of tea.

He once told me that I remind him to stop and see the beauty in things, because when we walk I always stop and smell flowers, or pick fruit to eat. I think I do these things because with him I feel so present, and use my senses so much more.

Wedding credits:

Photos: Henry Paul Photography | Florist: Katie Marx | Engagement Ring: Cushla Whiting | Videographer: Nathan Kaso | Celebrant: Kim Walsh | Ceremony Venue: Butterland | Reception Venue: Butterland | Brunch Catering: Bruce’s Kitchen | Dinner Catering: Gathered | Entertainment: Kahuna Duo | Bar: Tom Collins drinks caravan | Cake: Blackbird Cakes | Stationery and Signage: Claudia Rose | Wedding Bands: Cushla Whiting | Dani’s outfit: Kate Halfpenny, Halfpenny London | Robe: Peter Alexander | Shoes: Jo Mercer | Jewellery: Millie Savage | Veil: Madam Tulle | Hair + Makeup: Monika Mobile Hair | Russ’ outfit: M.J Bale Shoes: Blundstones | Watch: Oliver Green | Pet Accessories: Sebastian Says

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Stevie & Alex – L’Heritage Restaurant, Mosman Wedding

On the shores of Chowder Bay in Mosman, UK ex-pats Stevie and Alex celebrated their wedding day with 20 of their closest friends, and an army of loved ones streaming in from across the globe.

L’Heritage Mosman was the perfect wedding venue for an intimate, cosy affair consisting of a heart-warming exchange of vows followed by a delicious 3-course lunch.

When I look back at Stevie and Alex’s portrait photos, I am drawn to the softness of Stevies gown contrasted with the variety of textures that the backdrop of Mosman and Chowder Bay provided us. The choice of hydrangeas as a wedding bouquet reflects the simplicity of this affair, complimented perfectly by the ease in which Stevie and Alex show their affection for each other.

All around, this is one very happy wedding photographer who is excited to share this remarkable love story with the world. I do hope you enjoy.

Photography: Henry Paul Photography | Cake: Mrs Jones the Baker | Stevie’s Gown: Kyha Studios | Stevie’s Veil: Britten | Wedding venue: L’Heritage Chowder Bay

Silent Discos: The Pros and Cons of Having One at Your Wedding

When planning your wedding, you’ll probably be thinking about how you can integrate music and dancing into the festivities. One of the more unique options for wedding entertainment is a silent disco. This is where guests listen to music on headphones instead of through speakers. While this new trend can be a lot of fun, it’s important to weigh the pros and cons before deciding if it’s right for you and your wedding. In this blog post, we will discuss the pros and cons of having a silent disco at your wedding!

What is a silent disco and how does it work

A silent disco is a type of event where people dance to music that they are listening to on headphones. The music is usually provided by a DJ, and people can choose which channel they want to listen to. Silent discos can be a lot of fun, because people can dance without worrying about disturbing others. They are also popular at weddings, because they allow people to dance without being too loud. silent disco headphones usually have three different channels, so people can choose between different types of music. The headphones also have a volume control so that people can adjust the level of the music depending on their preference.

The pros of having a silent disco at your wedding:

  • Silent discos are a great way to keep your guests entertained and engaged
  • They’re perfect for weddings of all sizes – from small, intimate gatherings to large, lavish affairs
  • Silent discos can be tailored to fit your specific needs and preference
  • They’re a fun, unique way to celebrate your wedding day
  • They are accessible, giving all guests the opportunity to party without having to worry about how loud it will be for them
  • Great for venues with noise limitations and curfews
  • Silent disco rentals are affordable and easy to arrange

The cons of having a silent disco at your wedding

  • They can limit the type of dancing guests can enjoy while wearing a headset
  • You may not get the same energy level from your guests as if there was a live band or DJ.
  • It can be hard to source a silent disco rental company in lower populated areas.
  • If there is an issue with connectivity, it can ruin the whole experience
  • It can be awkward as an outsider watching everyone dancing with no music

How to decide if a silent disco is right for you

The first thing to consider is your budget for entertainment. Silent disco hire can start as low as $300, but can also be in excess of $2,000 depending on your requirements.

Next, weigh up the benefits of a silent disco vs live entertainment like a band or DJ at your venue. Bands usually bring infectious energy, being able to tailor their music to suit the mood of the room, and DJs often come with lots of fun things like strobe lighting or smoke machines.

Tips for planning a successful silent disco wedding

A silent disco can be a great way to add some extra fun to your wedding reception. Here are a few tips to help you plan a successful silent disco wedding:

First, make sure you have enough headphones for everyone. You don’t want guests to miss out on the fun because they couldn’t get their hands on a headset. Second, choose the right music. You’ll want to pick something that everyone will enjoy dancing to. Third, plan some fun activities for people who want to take a break from dancing. Silent discos can be pretty intense, so it’s important to give guests a chance to catch their breath. By following these tips, you can throw a silent disco wedding that everyone will remember for years to come!

Simita & Matt – Hunter Valley Gardens Wedding

“But the truth is, also, simply this: love is indomitable.” – Casey McQuiston

Salsa class. That’s where Simita and Matt met.

More specifically, it was a chance encounter, orchestrated by the Groupon gods. Both signed up due to a groupon voucher, and when they got paired to dance together there was an instant connection.

“We both laughed the entire time and got into trouble from the teacher.” – Simita

As they walked to the car after class, Simita declared that she and Matt and should be friends and added Matt on Facebook.

Simita has a knack for meeting people in the most unique ways: Simita and I met on a tour bus in Italy.

I was drawn to Simita on that bus for a few reasons: she had an infectious optimism, worked hard to remember everyone’s names, and was clearly eager to make some epic memories in Europe.

One of my favourite memories with Simita was one night in Berlin we went to a bar near our hotel and ordered curry and cocktails. Over the course of several cocktails, we were joined by a number of other friends we’d made on the trip. To me, this is evidence of how palpable Sim’s joy was, that people came to seek her out to spend more time with her.

I’m grateful that our friendship extended beyond the Europe trip, and that I have shared in some beautiful memories with both Simita and Matt over the last few years.

Here’s to a few more decades of beautiful memories ahead!

Bimbadgen wedding venue Bride and groom standing in the Hunter Valley looking out

Florist: Flower Rama – Castle hill | Rings: Waldemar Jewellers | Celebrant: Samantha Grabda | Ceremony Venue: Hunter Valley Garden | Reception Venue: Bimbadgen | Catering: Bimbagden | Entertainment: Nick Read | Cake / Dessert: Cakes by Han

Why family/VIP photos are so important on your wedding day (and how to do them without pulling your hair out)

large family photo on wedding day

“Where’s Aunt Janice?”

This commonly asked question usually happens on two occasions: 1) an hour after Christmas lunch when Janice has had too much to drink and 2) moments after your wedding ceremony has finished and you want to take a photo with all the family.

The family photo (or VIP photo) portion of your wedding day can be a time-consuming and frustrating task. In this blog post, we’ll look at why family photos are important, as well as some tips for streamlining everything to be as stress-free as possible (and ensure that Aunt Janice is exactly where we need her).

Why take family/VIP photos in the first place?

Family and VIP photos are an incredible moment on your wedding to do two things:

  1. Capture beautiful memories with your loved ones, and
  2. Honour the people who have been supported you

I always recommend allocating some time shortly after the wedding ceremony for some family and VIP photos because they are a wonderful way to say “thank you, I love you” to the important people in your life.

One of the most underestimated elements of these photos is not necessarily how much *you* want to do them, but rather it’s a time to take the types of photos that your rellies want.

So, how do we all collectively survive the process? Planning.

Write a list of must-have groupings

When you hire a professional photographer for your wedding day, you’ll likely need to provide them with a list of all of the specific groupings of your family and VIPs that you want to be photographed. Trust me when I tell you that this isn’t because we want to give you more work to do. Rather, it’s because we know how important this list is in avoiding confusion and frustration on the day of the wedding.

Keep it to a Minimum

What does sugar in your coffee and family photos have in common? Less is more. I know, it can be hard to whittle it down and decide who should get included on your list. But if you have a long list of people to include, then I would suggest aiming for fewer photos of larger groups, rather than more photos of smaller groups.

I suggest you account for 20 minutes (at least) to get through your list. And once you start doing the math, you will quickly realise that the longer the list is the longer you will need to awkwardly stand next to relatives with a big cheesy grin on your face.

By planning ahead, you can make it really clear who needs to be present for which photos, and no one will be left lingering wondering what to do with themselves. Plus, even though you’re having a smaller list of “formal” photos with family, any good wedding photographer is going to get countless informal moments of your loved ones enjoying themselves at your party.

Designate a “family captain”

Designating someone bossy to be your “family captain” will help keep things running smoothly on your wedding day. Usually a member of the family, or a close friend, the family captain has full permission to get their bossy voice on and start ordering people into position.

Humans are funny creatures sometimes, and it can often take 2 or 3 times before they register when they’re being asked to do something (i.e. take your sunnies off for the photo). It’s best for you and your brand new spouse to preserve your energy for more important things on the wedding day and let a trusted person be the bad guy.

Your family photos at your wedding are important, but they can also be stressful. They’re a great way to show your family that you love and honour them, not just for the day of the event, but throughout your life together as well. If you want to keep things stress-free on this big day, there are some simple ways to make sure everything goes smoothly. The first step is making a list so everyone knows what they need to do before it gets hectic in the morning. Next, keep your list small! Finally, designate someone who will take charge and keep things moving.

Are you looking for a professional wedding photographer to help you with your family photos (and all the other photos on your wedding day)? Head to my contact page and find out if I’m still available on your wedding day.

Henry Paul Photography is a place where all couples are affirmed and celebrated, regardless of their age, gender identity, sexuality, race, religion or disability.

Henry Paul Photography acknowledges Traditional Owners of Country throughout Australia and recognises the continuing connection to lands, waters and communities. I pay my respect to Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures, and to Elders both past and present. Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples should be aware that this website may contain images or names of people who have since passed away.


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